“If the people in your life dont accept the things you do or how you are, how much money you get paid etc get new friends, they dont deserve you.”
Halloween is a very interesting holiday. It grants you the free ability to dress up like anything you wish and hit the streets fully in character. Anything from batman to a zombie you can express yourself and “be” whatever you like.
The interesting thing about disguises is it lets you comfortably be your true self without risk. It allows you to be yourself without giving away your face(identity). It lets you do things keeping your true reputation safe. You dont have to worry what others may think about you because they don’t know who is behind the mask.
Society knows best
Now much of society and life we put up many disguises, most of them of which aren’t halloween costumes but normal everyday faces mostly focused externally. We tend to project things people can see right away, we cheat. Our disguises are often affiliated with what we look like or say rather than who we are as a person.
Our fragile souls
We put up disguises because we cant afford to hurt our soul, its protection and the disguises allow us to do things without letting it hurt our confidence and allowing us to try things without messing up our true self. We don’t want the people in our life to know we have such “weaknesses” or we are a “certain way”.
“Another round over here!”
A lot of times disguises can be brought down temporarily by the substances or drugs we take. This is a disguise within a disguise, it helps us then hurts us. We cant be ourself until we are fully sedated or in a state of mind that allows us to let go of our inhibitions. Meaning when we do certain substances we take on an identity that allows us to be “ourself”. The substances knock our disguise down and we open ourself up, being fully vulnerable to the world. At first things are good but soon after substances can open a can of worms. Your honesty can flood the room and you may start to do or say things your true self wouldn’t even agree with.
Its a cop out, yes they allow you to be free and do things that you wouldn’t normally do but to a certain point you have to ask yourself if that belligerent tongue and rambunctious booty dancing is really you. The answer is no thats not really you otherwise you would be doing it without having to turn to things that “loosen you up”. Substances allow you to be and do things you want to because it subsides your fear. If you cant have fun without only turning to an external object or substance first, there is a problem, you are holding on to your disguise or neglecting the person within yourself.
I know plenty of people that say “well you know i just cant loosen up until i had a few drinks!”. This is all good but why cant you? Do you want to in the first place, is that really you or is it what your trying to be? Are you hiding or ashamed of the person you are? Substances should only be enhancements to your true self not exaggerations of the person you think you should be like.
I drink too
I have nothing against drinking, I occasionally drink too but i do have something against only being able to relax and be yourself when you are under the influence. If you act drastically different while drinking than you do normally there may be something there for you to explore and see why this is the case. Is there something in your life your not happy about, are you not happy with your life? I feel like a person that does this is only trying to hide something or is easing some sort of internal pain. Rather than turning to something that doesn’t talk back, talk to someone, ask them, it will feel much better and you owe it to yourself to be real.
What do you think? Your opinion is friends with your true self.
Alot of what our society holds dear goes against our individual morals but in order to fit in we mold ourself into what we think other people will want to see and some people put on that mask every minute of their lives. “Putting yourself out their on the line is far too dangerious, they may not accept me if i did!”
Have your own opinions about things, don’t just accept what someone else believes, do your research and go with your gut feeling. Doing this allows you to take off the mask you inherited from others and allows you to be free and adds credibility to your character. Going along with some other belief just because someone else does is well a mockery. Challenge all things which you believe and hang on to the things you know to be true.
Oh your friends because of that, nice..They don’t deserve you.
The important thing to remember is you should be able to be yourself and not have to go into a mask or disguise to do so. If the people in your life don’t accept the things you do or how you are, how much money you get paid etc get new friends, they dont deserve you. If your holding back on your own desires because what it may look like to others, leave that crowd and find one that will support you.
Focus on what people cant see so that the outside is just an added bonus.
Its healthy to work on the internal rather than what things look like on the outside. If you focus on yourself the other stuff should follow naturally. Project what you feel and who you are and not what your not. Try and stay in your character all day long no matter what crowd you are with. This is a real challenge but one that will really teach you something about yourself.
This doesn’t mean start telling people you scratched you butt today, people will be too scared of the honesty.
You dont have to reveal your secret crushes or what you dreamt about the night before to be yourself but rather just act yourself. If your first thought is to tell someone who your secret crush is then well don’t hold back :) go right ahead but be careful of the outcome 
. If you don’t know what that means to be yourself then i will put it this way, to be yourself, you act yourself. You do and make decisions that our weighted off of your own desires and wants and not those who manipulate you to choose their way unless that is your desire. Its simply about going with your gut instinct.
Leave the disguise in the closet.
This month instead of putting on a disguise or carving another pumpkin, really strive to be who you are and do the things you want to do without having to worry about what other people think. The universe will work itself out naturally and those people will fade out of your life, which really does you a favor anyways! Let me tell you, its highly enjoyable to know that the friends i have in my life today our ones that accept me for who i am and not the actor im trying to convey.
You will realize how nice it is to be just one person rather than an actor who plays a different role in each group of friends. Focus on yourself and try taking off that disguise today, it will honesty pay off and in the end it will leave you feeling alot more complete and appreciated.
Discussion: Good or bad, how would you act if you always had a mask on? Would you act differently? Would you live differently? Would you be more real? Why or why not?
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Very true, I’ve never thought about Halloween this much. Happy Halloween.
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